You’re not doing what you want to do with your life, and everyone around you knows it because you’re miserable – and misery just radiates off you. What do you do? You know you need to find your passion, to understand what excites you and makes you want to get up in the morning, but how do you do that? Here’s how.
What is Passion?
The dictionary definition of passion is “a powerful emotion or feeling”. Passion is emotion like love or hate, and it doesn’t leave any doubt about what it is you’re feeling. Activists are passionate about their causes, musicians are passionate about their music, and top chefs are passionate about the food they create. Once you truly understand what passion is, then you’ll have an easier time finding it – or it’ll find you.
You can tell when someone is passionate about something by how they talk about it: they’ll light up, babble excitedly, and become highly animated.
Let’s take a look at your time on Earth. What things have you done or experienced that excited you? Do you find the world of fire trucks and emergency response beyond fascinating, or are you one of those folks that just can’t get enough of all things dinosaur? Think about any experiences that made you say, “Wow! This is amazing!” Those are the things you’ll be looking into.
Once you have an idea of things that have really interested you, pursue them. You had a lot of fun baking cakes with friends? Take some baking classes and see if that tickles your fancy. Touched by the plight of the homeless? Volunteer for a shelter or an organization that helps.
If your reflections didn’t give you any ideas, it’s time to do some research. Look into your interests, any topics that relate, and follow the leads to whatever catches your eye.
Can’t Quite Feel It?
It’s also possible that there’s something blocking you from finding your passion. Lots of things can do that. Fear of failure is a big one, and it can be hard to work through. It’s important to practice positive self-talk when faced with fear. Every time that little voice in the back of your mind says, “you can’t do it”, treat it like a backseat driver. Tell it, “I can and I will”. Give it a name. Tell it off.
Imagining what your life will be like when you succeed is a great tool toward pushing back fear, too. As hokey as it sounds, positive thinking really is the best bet for eliminating those nagging bad feelings.
Mental illness also leads to being unable to find enjoyment in things you like. If this has been going on for a long time, speak to your doctor – the problem may be more serious than fear or confusion.
You’ve figured out your passion, now what do you do? Whatever you want. Whether you turn that into a career or learn to be better at it, it’s up to you how you handle this knowledge.